Hiya, how are you doing out there? So excited to know you're back again on the blog. Guess you watched out for the post yesterday. Apologies, was so so busy so had to postpone posting to today. Oh yeah! this is the third out of four of the Saying Yes to the life of your dreams series. Today I'll be sharing one important principle I use in most of my relationships. Some people I have met over time have paved a way and have been instrumental to my success and have helped me along my journey. I want to say a big thanks to all of them. Some I have learnt from, while some have been my lesson.
If you're reading this post and you really want to say yes to the life of your dreams, then you have to intentionally increase your network. If the same people you know last year or last month are the same people you know now, there hasn't been any addition or multiplication of your network, then you really need to wake up. You must constantly be in the business of meeting great people and connecting with them as well as building quality relationships with these people.
The secret of connecting with great people is not to present yourself as a liability but an asset. Your first contact with them shouldn't be always about seeking for a favour, collecting their numbers to ask them for money later on or just being parasitic. Trust me, these people are very busy. If you want to gain their attention, present yourself to them as an asset, present a value proposition that benefits them first before seeking to get them involved in your business.
This is all dependent on what you hope to achieve or the reason for the relationship you intend to build with them. This may differ, if you're meeting your pastor for counselling or approaching someone for mentoring or coaching. In all, it starts with being someone that has a reputation for something positive and invaluable which could be your contributions to society or your professional reputation. Great people connect with other great people who have a defined identity and are respectful and humble in the way they present themselves. In the words of Mike Murdock, you should pay any price to be in the midst of extraordinary people. You become more like the people that you surround yourself with. So if you want to be wealthy, make friends with wealthy people. If you want to be influential, surround yourself with influential people.
Talking about relationship, as you travel along life's road. You would meet three kinds of people, people at your level, people above your level and those below your level. It's essential that you find a balance to connect with these three kinds of people. With the first set, you can sharpen each other to be more. With those above your level, you can learn from them and most times if you're lucky, they would hold your hands and lift you up to their level. For those below you, you shouldn't look down on them but do unto others as you want them to do unto you. Lend a helping hand and help them go higher if you have the capacity to do so.
I remember few years ago I made a mistake with a relationship I so valued. I had to go the extra mile to ensure the relationship was restored because I valued the person as a mentor and a father. The reward of the relationship was greater than the cost of losing the person in my life. You would agree with me that some relationships are worth keeping for a life time. When I look back, I am also grateful for some relationships I lost because the cost of the relationship was greater then the reward and I am happy that I took responsibility for my life and happiness to leave those relationships (friendship and marital). For me personally especially when it comes to marital relationship; I learnt to weigh the cost of being in the relationship. If the cost is greater than the reward, I'm so out. My principle on relationship is gotten from the Bible in Luke 18:28-34. I know following Jesus may be costly, but it is worth it, because the reward of giving my life to Christ and living wholly for Him is greater than any cost I can imagine. If you don't have a relationship with Christ, you're really missing. This is your opportunity to make right your relationship with Him before it's too late. Stay blessed always and be courageous enough to let go of relationships that kill instead of build.
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Onyinye Etoniru is an author, lover of God and entrepreneur. She teaches life and home management from God's perspective. True Lessons With Onyinye is a mixture of true inspiration, true stories and true lessons on #WealthMatters #LifeMatters #SoulMatters #BusinessMatters #HomeMatters.
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