Welcome to the second piece of the blog series this week on Saying Yes to the life of your dreams. Crutches is one of the many things I have learnt to do away with whilst saying yes to the life of my dreams. You know how when you have a broken leg and they usually would give you crutches to aid your movement until the leg finally heals. Some people get to wear those crutches longer than usual because they get too comfortable with them and also they enjoy the attention that using the crutches affords them.
My own definition of crutches are things in your life that give you a sense of validation but some how bring you the greatest limitations. When I look back at my life, I have had manifestations of crutches represented through people, through friends, family, advice, opinion and so on. These things may seem good and come from a heart with good intention but sometimes, if we decide to take up those crutches, we won't find our own true path in life or have the courage to leave our safe zone or find our true selves or discover our deep calling or experience more from life or even take the bold steps that would lead us to the best things God has put on our path.
I got my first car after my studies in University of Lagos, a car I had imagined whilst I was in school and some how it happened that I got the same exact model and colour I always wanted. I was still trying to perfect my driving skills, so I didn't drive far from my house, and when I had to drive very far, I would hire a driver to take me around. When I cam back from the UK, the car was replaced but this time, I wanted a blue colour so I sent it to my mechanic for him to respray to the exact blue colour I wanted. He changed it from white to blue. My parents didn't want me to drive the car cause I was on the Island and they felt Lagos was really rough. So I had to take bike to and from my estate to get to the major road, walk under the sun most times and also take a bus when I had a car at home. I know they cared for my safety and wanted to protect me and I really admire my parents for being there for me and always showing they care. I do appreciate that in a million ways I cannot describe.
The day, the car was supposed to be sprayed, my brother's driver had to take it all the way to the mainland to his former mechanic. My plan was to spray the car, dedicate it and get a friend to drive it down for me from the mainland to the Island as I was advised to do that. That Sunday, a wonderful friend of mine decided to park his own car and drive me down to my house. As he joined me up in Unilag gate; I clearly remember, he said to me, ''Onyi you can drive now... you can do this, you can drive from the mainland to the Island, I'll guide you''. I heard a still small voice support him ''you can do this, give it a try'. I also remembered that I was told not to drive the car down no matter what but to get a friend to drive it down. I made up my mind right then, 'why would I do this to myself..why would I have a car and not be able to drive it because of the care fears of someone else'. I remember my friend, Isaac sitting beside me and guiding me as I drove all the way. The trust he had in me and confidence is something I would forever be grateful for. As I got to my street after driving through the third mainland bridge and Lekki Epe express way, I could not be more than grateful for finally letting go of the crutches and most importantly for daring to do something that was outside my safe zone. Of course, when I got home, my brother couldn't believe I drove all the way. He was upset that someone didn't drive the car down but also amazed that his little sister could drive all the way on her own.
Sometimes, you've got to let those crutches go, you can't take them in your journey to saying yes to your dreams. Your crutches may represent some other things in your life, only you know those things but I'll like you to be courageous enough to fight for what you believe in and take responsibility for your life.
I dedicate this piece to a true friend Isaac Oladipupo, you're an amazing person and when I drive around Lagos, sometimes I remember you and I am full of gratitude because you believed in me and helped me say yes to the life of my dreams.
Yeah! I've always wanted to visit Italy. So when I had the opportunity to join the impact team to Italy, I was more than excited. It was a tough call cause I had exams during that period, It meant that I would have to stay in Italy for few days and get back to UK a day before to write that course, which was the last course, whilst others continued to another city. But I had made up my mind. Of course I had people telling me 'why would you want to take that risk'. Trust me I had a text book that I had to read that I hadn't even opened cause I just purchased it few days before the trip. But I had read during the summer holiday, so I just had to revise. Of course, I had to leave the crutches this time around and going to Italy was one experience I would never forget till today. From stopping over in Rome, to visiting one of the oldest churches in the world, leading young girls to Christ, a lovely time at the hotel in Naples and being with the most amazing people so passionate for Christ...It was so much fun and overly peaceful in Italy with so much adventure..I even remember, yea! not sure how our boxes got lost in transit and we had to wait a full day for them to send our boxes to the hotel. It was an unforgettable experience indeed. lol! Glory to God! experiencia de vida.
Hallos my people, wishing you all a very happy new month. This week on the Saying yes to your dreams blog series, I would be sharing with you one of the most outstanding principles I have used in my life on my journey to saying YES to God's dreams for me.
You know when as a little girl, you have dreams of being a great person and doing something worthwhile with your life. As a child, I remember always dreaming big and I had this picture of being a business woman and coming home with a suitcase and entering the kitchen to cook and my hubby and kids embracing me...having all the nice things that makes life comfortable.
Fast forward to today, over time, I have realized that most of the things I now have or I am doing, not all though, were things I had seen in my Spirit or I had imagined consciously and consistently thought about. What you think about, you bring about and how you think about your life is very important as it determines to a large extent who you eventually become. I have proof from the word of God, "As a man thinks in his heart so is he' Proverbs 23:7 . I believe God gives us permission to imagine and create the kind of lives we want to live with our mind. Maybe not all would come to pass but if it's line with His will for your life, It would surely come to pass. But what you do when you use your imagination is that you are exposed to the beauty of possibilities of an amazing life. You place a demand on God to do exceedingly beyond what you have thought or imagined and you receive the gift of a life well lived.
The possibility of your dreams ever happening, starts with your thoughts and overtime it has an effect on your life which produces result. As you think (see with your mind) so you are. It's up to you to retrace your thoughts and consistently imagine the life you want to live, the places you want to go, the legacy you want to leave behind, how you want to contribute to lives and God's kingdom. Focus on what you want in your life, not what you don't want. The more you imagine, the higher the chances of it coming to realization. Of course, there is more that you should do but this is your starting point.
I have always wanted to go to Business School and have held this thought for a really long time. Few years back, I got into University of Reading for my Masters and didn't realize that my dream had come to pass. As I attended my first class for the session, I realized that I walked into a building that had Henley Business School written on it. I was like wow! is this really happening...I had walked into my dreams without even realizing it. I think when I got back to my house later on, I held a praise party.
Okay, another instance. I always wanted to know more about the retail industry and work in a fast moving and consumer goods company. My desire was to get a job in GSK or Unilever, but I got a job in a real estate finance company and after few months, I was transferred into another division of the company which happen to be involved in selling and distributing for our parent company in Poland, an FMCG company. Few months after enjoying myself at work, learning about the business; one day, while I was meditating, I realized this dream of mine had come to pass and that I was unconsciously living this dream and I didn't know because it didn't come in the direct way I had expected. As I write this in my office, lovely place with a nice ambiance, I cannot but thank God that He has been too good to me and I am grateful for the gift of the ability to think and create the life of my dreams according to His will, against all odds.
You too, can say yes to the life of your dreams by imagining the life God wants you to live, using your mind and creative powers just like God did when He created the heaven and the earth and brought form to the earth through His imagination. Hold those thoughts, hold those dreams, they are coming to pass. Don't give up on God's dreams for you, even if it's taking longer than expected. Vive tu sueño.
Yeah! it's a welcome back 'parry' for me on my blog ! I guess it's time to start writing consistently on my blog and this is the big reveal. I'll be sharing with you chronicles of true lessons about love, success and money that would inspire you to say Yes to the life of your dream. Praise aloud to God, scream if you want to but don't miss the blog series. It's going to be Aww! and sure you'll have a lot to learn with a bit of spanish to make each piece an amazing read! Don't miss your own scoop of the creamy piece. Onyinye te ama.
So many people know about my first book, the Journey of a Higher Life , published first in Nigeria and two years later, a revised one was published in UK, but they do not know the story behind the book. I was divinely instructed to write the book after I passed through three painful years of my life. I would say, it was painful but gainful at the end.
I never planned to be a writer and I remember thinking to myself, 'who would ever publish this book ..'It's a Christian genre'. 'I am not a pastor neither am I a pastor's daughter'. 'Was I qualified to write a Christian book' were thoughts that garnered my mind at that time. I remember my publisher telling me 'that I should forget about publishing the book and publish something else in another genre' and his partner convincing him that it was a good one, he believed in it and they should publish it.
As a corper in the northern part of Nigeria, I had to come back to Lagos and planned the Book Launch, made all the preparations for the final book editing and printing within two weeks.
A day to the book launch, I remember my Dad sitting on the dining chair at the sitting room in my brother's house asking 'where is the book you said you wrote' ...obviously it was a day to the book launch and the book wasn't yet ready.
On Nov 4th, 2012....The Journey of a Higher Life was launched, an event that changed my life significantly and my life's story.
In few weeks, I would be launching the audio book of the Journey of a Higher Life. The story behind the book is a walk to remember.
I'm specially inviting you to join me at the Lagos Christian Book Chat Meet Up as I share about the story behind the book, writing and publishing tips and much more. So sorry that is strictly for ladies though but the audio book launch would definitely be for both 'guys' and 'girls' . So stay close!
What's going to be happening at the meet up!
* Book Chat
* Book Reading
* Q & A
* Meet Up & Networking
*Spicy Tips for Living True and Full
* Book Club Meeting
Date: Sunday 26th, March 2017.
Venue: Mint Lounge
Plot 5A No 33 Grace Anjous Drive,
Off Adebayo Doherty Road. Lekki Phase One. Lagos.
To attend, click the link to register
The Lagos Christian Book Chat meet up is an initiative of TJFC platform, an online Christian social platform and book club which equips women and teaches them life and home management from God's perspective.
The Lagos Christian Book Chat which is one of its kind is aimed at celebrating christian women authors and helping them project the message God has given to them.
Don't miss this for any reason! Plan to attend.
N/B: Limited Spaces Available. Please register to book your seat.
An inspirational audio collection of the book, The Journey of a Higher Life by Onyinye Etoniru.
As the year draws closer to its end, I decided to look back at my life and share some of the exciting and adventurous things I did in 2015 and the lessons I learnt. First of all, I want to deeply than God for an amazing and supernatural year. I feel very spoilt by God. Everyday has been a miracle day for me, like seriously. God is the reason I am alive and I am where I am today, It's all because of Him and of course a big thank you to YOU for reading my blog and supporting me. I appreciate plenty plenty. I'll leave you to enjoy my pic story.
CANOEING WITH FRIENDS
I had a really amazing time at PGL in UK. it was my first time canoeing, My friends and I didn't take any practical class on canoeing. But as usual, I was determined to paddle all the way. After few times trying to get the trick behind it. I finally got it and my canoe partner and I won most of the games we played with other teams , like canoe racing, catching the ball. It was all fun and laughter but also learnt a lot about team work and the fact that if you're really determined, you can learn anything you want.*smiles.
THE MASSAGE OF A LIFE TIME
I've been pretty busy this year. I've always wanted to have a massage, but never had the time to do it. One day, when I knew I couldn't take it any longer, because of the stress. I booked a physiotherapy session with a lady, Ify at home and took a day off.
My conversations with her
Me: Ouch, this is so painful, i thought it was supposed to be soothing
Ify: You have a lot of stress lumps, that's why. I'll have to massage it so it can dissolve.
Me: Shocked, i managed to reply ''I guess it's because I used to be an athlete.''
Ify: It's necessary to have massage often as it helps in reducing stress and aging symptoms, relaxing the muscles, helps you to be more active physically and keeps you healthy.
Me: Thanks. wow! didn't know that. I'll consider doing it often.
I was glad I finally took out time to do the massage, Though it was painful at first but rewarding as I felt lighter and better after few days.It's almost like part of my #Dare2do for the year. I'll like to recommend that you take out some time and try out a massage. You can call Ify on 07034550768 for a refreshing massage, treat yourself or a loved one. I learnt that it's important to take out time to take care of your health, you'll reap the benefits now and in the future.
THE WEDDING ROAD TRIP
I've always been in love with road trips. It was a refreshing time for me on a road trip from Lagos to Akure in Ondo state. Nigeria; as I travelled to grace my dearest friend's wedding -kester. I met a lot of amazing people from Germany and Nigeria whom I'm still friends with till today. Dorcas, Domain, Vicky, Toba, Emeka, Glory, Angela,Was-nee, Toba and others.
One thing, that really surprised me about my friend, was that on His wedding night, he brought together all his friends and we had discussions on how we could play a part in solving the issues in Nigeria and we shared & prayed to wrap up the day's activities. What he did, not only inspired me but really got me thinking about how many people would do that on their wedding day. I knew it was a very selfless act and I believe it's one of the attributes of any great person.It pays to be live a selfless life. *Lovely coupl
Hello great ones,
It's being a while I wrote on my personal blog not because I don't have a lot of awesome things to share with you but because I have been pretty busy with work and a few projects. Okay, before I go right in on the juice for today, I would like to wish you a really happy new month. This year has been one great year, I won't forget in a hurry and God has been awesomely faithful. From enjoying more of God's goodness to exploring new businesses, finding love, contributing to lives and celebrating the gift of truly living.
Remember last year, I started the #Dare2do challenge; you know how people get all worked up with not been able to fulfill some of their goals. So this challenge is really about giving peope the push, the motivation, joining hands with them to find the courage and confidence to stop thinking or dreaming but doing that one thing they've always wanted to do before the year runs out but they actually have till 25th of December to do that.
Here are some of the #Dare2do stories from last year.
Layi: "So I took up the challenge #dare2do, I never knew I could paint...but hey I did it! The feeling is totally awesome, you dont need to hire a painter, do it yourself. #dare2do #justdoit"
Chinenye: She started a #7dayslessons about her life and the year 2015 and completed it in the process inspired a lot of people with her write ups and received numerous comments and great feedback.
Ukey Mary: My #Dare2do Challenge
I've always been known as one 'omo tailor' that doesn't even know how to use a sewing machine. It's not that I'm not interested o, maybe it's just laziness. *covers face...
Well, thanks to all, if you that have always been on my neck, I'm finally coming out if my laziness. I made this 'simple dress' as you may see it MYSELF! Although momsy came to my aid, but I did it!
What inspired me? Onyinye Etoniru's #Dare2do Challenge!!! I saw the post on facebook and I decided to do it. The dress was ready before 25th, but I didn't get the chance to post it. Thanks to y'all! I've started, there's no stopping. *winks
Onyinye Etoniru: My #Dare2do Challenge
For four years, I tried to learn how to sew. I enrolled for a sewing class during my NYSC for three months but only attended the class for about 3 days but never had a chance to even pedal. Doing the #Dare2do challenge, I achieved in four hours, what I could not achieve in four years. #ThankGod #IsewedtheSkirt.
Ruth Okoli: My #Dare2do Challenge
I found it super difficult to make my hair by myself. I always have to beg this Aunty- Grace Chinomso Okoli to help Me but recently She decided to be proud and refused my appeal.
I later decided to ask my younger sister- Okoli Peace (It was that bad). Unfortunately, she turned me down. Then I took the bold step to do it myself.... It wasn't easy but I did it.
Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man who goes farthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare.-Dale Carnegie
What ONE thing have you always wanted to do but have allowed procrastination, fear and laziness to stop you. Here is your chance.! Join me on the #Dare2do challenge with other great people and make it happen and get a chance to have your #Dare2do story featured on the TLWO blog.
What's your #Dare2do Challenge for 2016, I would like to know. Please leave your comment below.
You only live once here on this part of the world. Every day, live charged and stay passionate about truly living from within. Don't let what's happening around you dull your sparkle. Believe you can and keep moving forward against all odds. Don't settle for less in life, reach for the stars and touch hearts as you do.
Today is my Birthday, Yeah! I thank God for life. I'm totally grateful for His goodness and wonders in my life. I was inspired to do this feature just for you, yea! you because you're special. I hope this blesses you and you have so much fun reading it as I had fun writing it. Thanks for being there all this while on TLWO.
One supernatural factor that has made me who I am today
One decision I made that I’m totally grateful for
Going to Business School.
One unforgettable family experience this year
My cousin's wedding at Port-Harcourt (my brother, sister, most of my aunties and cousins, we were together at home for days with my lovely parents)-enough things to eat and gist about.
One personal goal of mine I achieved
Launching my own personal blog/site and the Girls Deserve project plus the Truekolours Hub site makeover.
One question that I always ask myself
How can I be more than I already am and create wealth in order to be a blessing to more people?
One opportunity that I would never forget
Participating in the Next Titans Reality TV show. It was God’s favour and determination that qualified me for a spot in the Top 50.
One funny thing I noticed being a year older
I realized that my pictures are kinda looking older, totally forgot that this would eventually come. I kinda miss some of my pic looks, but I plan to take lots of pics now for keeps for the future. Lol!
One conference that changed my life positively
True Living Conference 2016, It helped me realize how much I needed to stand up for my happiness and the fact that It was my responsibility to do so.
One thing I’m most grateful for
Life (In all ramifications)-the salvation of my soul, still getting to know God more, my amazing sister, my sweet brother, my one in a million mum, my lovely dad. My mentor and all my friends, all the jewels on the true jewels hang out, TLC 2016 Team, supporters and volunteers. Everyone that I have met this year that has been a blessing to me whether personally or by reading their books, the church and all the great men of God I tap grace and wisdom from Pastor Paul & Becky Eneche, Pastor Umoru, Pastor Ojo, Pastor Kumuyi and many others.
One phrase that has been a contributing factor to my success
Do it anyways.
One habit that has helped me so far
Promptness and pro-activeness in spotting and taking hold of opportunities.
One bucket list achievment
Being a part of a reality TV show.
One personal success advice for young people
Decide specifically and precisely what you really want from life, then desire it enough to make worthy sacrifices and make extra effort to work on it until it becomes a reality.
One value that I have stuck to all these years
I seek to give my best in all I do as I ensure that it’s only the best work that I permit myself to put out.
One relationship advice for young people
Hmm…marry for purpose and with purpose; don’t enter into a relationship with someone that you’re not proud of and don’t stay in a relationship that you’re not proud of.
One book I read that has improved my leadership ability
The 360 degree leader by John Maxwell.
One emotional advice for young people
Live a life of gratitude, learn to intentionally enjoy what you have and the people in your life in each phase; it has a way of making you appreciate the beauty of life.
One spiritual advice for young people
Seek God, seek His presence,seek His kingdom, seek His word for you above all your seeking. Because when you have access to His hidden treasure, you access truth by revelation which brings about light and direction; that’s what makes you go farther and faster in life cause you can’t leave where you are until you know what to do.
One quote I heard this year that transformed my life
‘’If you want to move in life, get anointed; if you want to keep moving, stay anointed.’
- Pastor Paul Eneche
One money advice for young people who want to retire early and wealthy
Invest your income, don’t buy liabilities; buy, build and create assets that generate cash flow. Keep at it until you can generate enough cash flow to cover your monthly expenses separate from your income.
One business advice that they won’t teach you in business school
If you want to start your business; start now, start small but start well. Ensure the business idea meets a need, solves a problem for you and your target market as well as creates a larger impact in the society.
One most important lesson I learnt this year
Plan and prepare ahead for the future that you see before it arrives, because most times the future will arrive unannounced.
One essential thing I want you to know
No matter where you are right now, remember that things can be better if you would live a life of ‘’More than ever before’’. More than ever before love God, study your Bible, fear God, praise God, reverence God, be submissive to God. More than ever before make more effort to connect to the right people, think bigger, grow your business, do things differently from the way you used to do them to get a different result. More than ever before give more time to building yourself and giving your best to life and your assignment. It would surely pay off in the long run.
Thanks for going through a piece of my life.
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